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Do you remember the last time you had to step out of one of your comfort zones?
How did it make you feel?
Was your heart pounding in your chest? Your palms sweaty? Your mouth dry?
Stepping out of your comfort zones is, by definition, uncomfortable.
And it’s also one of the most important things you have to do.
Luckily, there’s a powerful strategy that makes it much easier.
Your Potential Exists Outside Your Comfort Zones
Most people hate the feeling of discomfort so they do pretty much anything they can to avoid having to step out of their comfort zones.
They rationalize all kinds of excuses to get themselves out of challenging situations.
And while that is a pretty great way to alleviate immediate stress, it’s also a terrible way to realize your potential.
That’s a huge problem because, as Abraham Maslow put it: “If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.”
If you want to live a fulfilling and happy life, you have to become the very best version of yourself.
And that requires you to step out of your comfort zone routinely. Why? Because that’s where every single great thing you’re capable of exists.
A fulfilling life is an uncomfortable life. To be happy, you need to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
Reverse Your Desire
Each time you get out of your comfort zone your going to experience a delightful cocktail of stress, fear, anxiety, pain, and doubt.
I say delightful not because I’m being sarcastic, but because that’s the attitude you need to bring to these challenges.
In their book, The Tools (1), psychotherapists Phil Stutz and Barry Michels refers to it as ”reversal of desire”; instead of avoiding pain, you learn to love it.
Within psychology, this technique is called ”cognitive reappraisal (2),” which means that you reinterpret the meaning of an emotional stimulus.
So, in other words, when you start to feel your heart pounding, palms getting sweaty, and your mouth drying up, you don’t perceive that as reasons to run and hide.
You instead choose to see these moments as the gifts they truly are — opportunities to step into your full potential!
How to Get Out of Your Comfort Zones: ”BRING IT ON!”
This all might seem easier said than done. And it is. That’s why you have to practice it. Again, and again, and again.
The only way to get comfortable being uncomfortable is to desensitize to it. For each uncomfortable situation you put yourself through, you’ll notice that it gets just a little bit easier next time.
And luckily, Stutz and Michels describes a tool that makes the whole process easier.
The strategy is simple. The next time you start feeling even an inkling of fear, doubt, anxiety, etc., SCREAM to yourself ”BRING IT ON!!!”
Then continue the chant by yelling ”I LOVE PAIN!! PAIN SETS ME FREE!!”
I’ll admit it sounds a little nuts, but it’s true. Pain is the doorway to your ultimate potential.
So, step through it right now.
BRING IT ON!!
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A Sometimes you wake up and you can’t love your breath
Sometimes you go to bed and you can’t seem to rest
They tell you you’re the best and all you hear is you’re a mess
They tell you it is not your fault and all you know is you are the cause
You read about self-love on the internet and hate yourself more for being bad at it
You buy the book on meditation and the breathing causes you frustration
You call yourself names they used to call you when you were a kid
Then you shame yourself for shaming yourself for shaming yourself
Until you break
Your body hurts
Your brain hurts
Your heart hurts
Your chest pounds
Your legs stall
Your back pain grips you
Your gut wrenches
You cannot connect the dots
You cannot even discern squares from dots
Your reality is a nightmare
You cannot distract from the mental noise
You have no choice
But accept that today you don’t love yourself
And that’s okay
It is not hard to love yourself
It is just easier to hate yourself
Tomorrow is another day
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Every once in a while, a story of true heroism and humanity comes along to make us all stop in wonder.
This time it involves a university professor from Gujarat, Dr Jyoti Lamba.
Meet the Professor Who Has Brought 6,000 Toilets to 34 Villages in Gujarat!
After discovering a village without a single toilet during a Gandhi Padyatra, Dr Jyoti Lamba returned to help. Four years later and she’s helped to build 6,000 toilets!
After visiting a rural village and discovering that there was not a single toilet available for the villagers, she didn’t just go home and lament, she built 6,000 toilets!
Over a period of 4 years since she visited the village, Dr. Lamba has built 6,000 toilets in 34 villages in Gujarat, often at her own expense.
She has faced backlash, criticism, skepticism, ridicule, not including other practical obstacles, yet this has not stopped her from achieving an incredible and very inspiring feat.
Story of the day: Dr Jyoti Lamba
“Since last three decades, I am a professor at one of the most prestigious University in the city. Teaching and interacting with students is something which has always made me happy and my life also used revolve around them, until Gandhi Padyatra happened to me in the year 2013. Our university had organised a Gandhi Padyatra where students and faculties visit villages and understand about their problems. During the visit to different villages, I realized that villagers don't have toilets in the villages and women are the most affected. Women have to wait till evening, until it gets dark to go for loo and this really saddened me. Once we were back from the trip, our Vice Chancellor Dr Sudarshan Iyengar called and asked me to start a project of building toilets in the villages. This was a huge opportunity to serve my Nation and be a part of making my mother earth clean so I immediately agreed. In January, 2013, I started my journey of educating and encouraging villagers of Gujarat to build toilet in their homes. Villages were in a big mess and no one was ready to build toilets and as a woman it was tough for me to explain the male villagers about the benefits of having a toilet in their house. It took me seven months to convince villagers to build toilets under the Government Program. It has been 4 years since I have been doing this work without taking a day off and so far, I have helped build 6000 toilets in 34 villages of Gujarat. I have helped build toilets in those villages where there wasn’t a single toilet since Independence. In many villages, I also kept competition stating those who will build toilets will get prize from me. I buy such prizes from my own savings by cutting down my personal expenses. There have been people who have laughed at me saying look how lower work this professor is doing, but that doesn’t stop me because for them it might be lower work but for me it’s an opportunity to serve my Nation. I can’t thank enough to our Prime Minister for boosting this campaign and making it our National Agenda due to which I am able to encourage more and more villagers to build toilets in their home.
Do what you love without thinking what others think about it. And development happens when Government and Citizens work together. Government can’t do everything alone, we have to participate and help in developing our country."